Monday, May 07, 2007

RELATING !


Relationships are truly complicated but they possess a very unique feature, the truth!

Recently I have been thinking about the fact that we are all faced with unique opportunities almost every second of every day. In an earlier Blogg entry I referred to a favorite word/thought of mine, moments. I think that in some ways what I am trying to describe now relates very much to that favorite word/thought.

When you abandon your life to a choice that instinctively you know will change or reshape your destiny you are in fact exposing yourself to a new truth. I have been living through a very challenging time in my life that I am partially responsible for; in so much as I provoked the change. I however did not create the unforgiving inhuman despair that has resulted from that provocation.

Relationships are truly complicated but they possess a very unique feature, the truth...!
Only Meg and I know the truth about our relationship. Her determined efforts to strip me from my love for Yuta and Louis and the purity that inhabited those relationships have almost worked. Just as she and I know our truth, my boys and I possess the same unique feature, our own truths. That thought had almost escaped me. The purity of our love for each other is an undisputable truth. Can you imagine how forgiving that thought is and how profound it is for me while I walk slowly through this time of loss? We all possess that unique feature in every relationship we have.

A right of passage that should be treasured. We all relate differently to each other and we do so for many reasons and some times for no reason at all but only we know its truth.

Meg must live with the truth and that must be a terrible load to carry even for someone as cold hearted as her. And I must also live with the truth. I often think about how I would love to trade places with her so that I could be with Yuta and Louis and for that reason I would obviously but I would never want to trade truths.

Yuta and Louis, I love.

Love, Dad

Friday, March 30, 2007

BEEN A WHILE !


Sitting here listening to Peter Gabriel's "Don't give up" .... A bit of a theme song for the past few years of my life. Interesting how it is a spirit that has taken on a quite presence in my life, always at the back of my mind. At times it calms me but usually it simply helps me get through the day.

I remember hearing myself say that a life is a long thing to live and need to refer to that philosophy more times than I would like to.

What has changed ? I am still longing to hear how the boys are doing and have attempted to get information but even that seems to be to much to ask for.

I'll email you guys again today and see if I can get some news....

Love,
Dad

Friday, January 12, 2007

Boys will be Boys !


Just a chance to share more pictures !

Tuesday, January 09, 2007

AGAIN & AGAIN !




Tormented.

Numb would be an accurate way to describe the filter that has been placed over my life.
I am blessed to have many who love me and while I recognize that, I can’t help but slip into a state of numbness….

The consequences of our decisions can be overwhelming at times. Is there a greater good, the optimistic aspect of my character continues to believe but it is facing significant challenges.

Love,
Dad

Thursday, November 30, 2006

Happy Birthday Louis !


Louis is 9 years old today.

Louis I hope you had a great birthday and I want you to know that I thought about you all day today. I sent you a birthday email and I hope that you received it !

9 years old ...Wow.... I can still remember the day you were born.

I can't seem to find the words to express how much I miss you and love you.

Happy birthday Louis.

Love,
Dad

Tuesday, November 14, 2006

If I Had Known


If I had known

I would of loved you even more
I would of enjoyed your laughter and smiles even more

If I had known

I would of said yes even more
I would of given you even more

If I had known

I would of taught you to be even stronger
I would of taught you to love even more

If I had known

I would of spent even more time listening
I would of spent more time teaching and playing

If I had known

On bended knee I pray, I didn't know !

Love,
Dad

Thursday, November 09, 2006

Always your father !


I carry you both in my heart but that has become a lonely place of late.
I think of you always ....

Life has in many ways stopped

All I ever wanted was to be a father, and you both made me proud to be just that.
You are both wonderful boys and I miss you so much and long for the day when I can tell you that both in person....

Long for the day

Be strong, be well, be my sons.

Love,
Dad